feakbeak
Sep 24, 08:01 PM
There are multiple angles to the situation. He is 18 and even if he wasn't - he's still his own person and does make his own decisions. Still, you do have influence over his life since you pay the bills and provide for him. This doesn't give you the right to harass him but I think it is fair to set rules for what time you want him home and if he can sleep over somewhere else. I wouldn't push the "you can't have sex" thing because he's going to do what he wants, but if you do not approve tell him you don't approve of teenagers having sex for whatever your reasons you may have. Also explain that he can (and will) make his own decisions and that you will be respectful of that. He will have to be responsible for those choices. Encourage him to have safe sex and give the usual advice. I don't think you need to put the condoms in his hands though.
When I was 19, I was in college and my gf lived about four hours away, during the summer we'd visit each other for weekends and such and we had to stay at each other's parents' house out of necessity. Neither of our parents allowed us to sleep in the same room. We weren't having intercourse anyway, but we were intimate during these visits and if we had wanted to we would have had intercourse - where there's a will, there's a way! You can't stop that but I think it is fair to set the "rules of your home" and if he doens't follow them there are consequences: paying rent, pulling his share, etc. Many on this board find this to be unreasonable, but I don't - it's your home. I don't think you need to butt heads on this topic. If you talk about it like reasonable adults I'm sure you can come to a reasonable compromise that you're both comfortable with. Just be open-minded, honest and willing to concede on some points if he makes valid arguments. Talk to him without coming off as judgmental or controlling - it sounds like he is reaching out for your approval/guidance to some extent.
Don't make your love conditional, but your financial support and what you will tolerate in your home is conditional. My step-sister (22-years old) needed a place to stay when starting work after college and so she crashed with me. It was only for about two months. She didn't pay any rent and she was just sleeping on my couch. I told her I didn't want her having sex with guys in my livingroom. It's my home and I didn't want to walk in on that or hear it going on in my small condo - it would have been weird. She had guys over, caught them making out... fine. I didn't care what she did, she stayed over at guy's places which was fine by me. We both we're fine with our arrangement, probably because we talked it over like adults. I didn't want to control her life at all, I just didn't want MY home to feel uncomfortable for me. I guess that's a completely different situation, but it illustrates my point.
Don't try to stop the sex, becuase you can't. Don't be an ass about it becuase you'll only push him away. Tell him it is his choice to have sex but that since you don't approve of it and you provide for him that you're not going to set "house rules" that encourage it or make it easy. Do be open, honest and support him no matter what he chooses to do. This isn't something worth losing a very valuable relationship over.
When I was 19, I was in college and my gf lived about four hours away, during the summer we'd visit each other for weekends and such and we had to stay at each other's parents' house out of necessity. Neither of our parents allowed us to sleep in the same room. We weren't having intercourse anyway, but we were intimate during these visits and if we had wanted to we would have had intercourse - where there's a will, there's a way! You can't stop that but I think it is fair to set the "rules of your home" and if he doens't follow them there are consequences: paying rent, pulling his share, etc. Many on this board find this to be unreasonable, but I don't - it's your home. I don't think you need to butt heads on this topic. If you talk about it like reasonable adults I'm sure you can come to a reasonable compromise that you're both comfortable with. Just be open-minded, honest and willing to concede on some points if he makes valid arguments. Talk to him without coming off as judgmental or controlling - it sounds like he is reaching out for your approval/guidance to some extent.
Don't make your love conditional, but your financial support and what you will tolerate in your home is conditional. My step-sister (22-years old) needed a place to stay when starting work after college and so she crashed with me. It was only for about two months. She didn't pay any rent and she was just sleeping on my couch. I told her I didn't want her having sex with guys in my livingroom. It's my home and I didn't want to walk in on that or hear it going on in my small condo - it would have been weird. She had guys over, caught them making out... fine. I didn't care what she did, she stayed over at guy's places which was fine by me. We both we're fine with our arrangement, probably because we talked it over like adults. I didn't want to control her life at all, I just didn't want MY home to feel uncomfortable for me. I guess that's a completely different situation, but it illustrates my point.
Don't try to stop the sex, becuase you can't. Don't be an ass about it becuase you'll only push him away. Tell him it is his choice to have sex but that since you don't approve of it and you provide for him that you're not going to set "house rules" that encourage it or make it easy. Do be open, honest and support him no matter what he chooses to do. This isn't something worth losing a very valuable relationship over.
crackbookpro
Apr 13, 12:14 PM
What percentage of iPhone users are on Verizon (world wide)? Serious question, because I don't see how Verizon getting the iPhone 4 has anything to do with an iPhone 5 release date. I really doubt 4g will be coming with the next iPhone. Everyone seems to think Verizon and its customers have some sort of power over apple. Wasn't an issue for the rest of the world and all the carriers and customers that got iPhones mid-cycle between the 3GS and 4.
It has everything do with it. You must not know much about variable costs within a business atmosphere. Many variables for sales & production with a release like Apple made in February of 2011. That release could easily have been guided through strategic corporate planning... for LTE... for Verizon... for market saturation & adoption... there are a lot of variables to think about.
More importantly, why do you think it doesn't? We are talking about LTE, and its adoption throughout a given marketplace.
In the U.S., 4G is not adopted entirely, and I am talking about true 4G. Verizon will be the first network. Sprint does not have 4G data capabilities, it is a mere marketing ploy - they have WiMax. AT&T will be the network to follow suit behind Verizon with a strong network of LTE. And then, if you get into countries, and their adoption(s) of LTE, then you are even more focused on your marketplace, and all the variable costs within production & sales.
My 2nd Question to you is - Are you one of the many who thought Verizon would never be getting an iPhone?
It has everything do with it. You must not know much about variable costs within a business atmosphere. Many variables for sales & production with a release like Apple made in February of 2011. That release could easily have been guided through strategic corporate planning... for LTE... for Verizon... for market saturation & adoption... there are a lot of variables to think about.
More importantly, why do you think it doesn't? We are talking about LTE, and its adoption throughout a given marketplace.
In the U.S., 4G is not adopted entirely, and I am talking about true 4G. Verizon will be the first network. Sprint does not have 4G data capabilities, it is a mere marketing ploy - they have WiMax. AT&T will be the network to follow suit behind Verizon with a strong network of LTE. And then, if you get into countries, and their adoption(s) of LTE, then you are even more focused on your marketplace, and all the variable costs within production & sales.
My 2nd Question to you is - Are you one of the many who thought Verizon would never be getting an iPhone?
Xavier
Aug 8, 09:50 PM
My desktop:
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Vegasman
Apr 4, 02:14 PM
Email address is required to send me shipping notifications, and iTunes receipts. A Physical address and phone number is required to ship me their hardware I buy and verify which country's App Store I can shop in.
FT needs my address for what, now? I'm not subscribing to the print edition.
With that line of thinking...
Apple needs my information for what, now? I bought my Apple hardware at Best Buy. I only use free apps.
FT needs my address for what, now? I'm not subscribing to the print edition.
With that line of thinking...
Apple needs my information for what, now? I bought my Apple hardware at Best Buy. I only use free apps.
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Tokke
Mar 31, 02:12 AM
Hi, everyone
I've been searching around Google and this forum, but I can't seem to find any information on how to view comments in a Word document on the iPad
I would love to be able to this on my iPad, so if any of you knows how to, it would be great :)
Thanks in advance :)
Tokke
I've been searching around Google and this forum, but I can't seem to find any information on how to view comments in a Word document on the iPad
I would love to be able to this on my iPad, so if any of you knows how to, it would be great :)
Thanks in advance :)
Tokke
ViciousShadow21
Aug 13, 09:55 PM
Here's mine...
[pic of Betty Draper]
Mad Men��such a great show, original?
like the texture of this
[pic of Betty Draper]
Mad Men��such a great show, original?
like the texture of this
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stlblufan
Apr 18, 10:25 AM
EDIT: Looks like a TU issue. Ignore this thread.
Today, I updated my iPad 2 (Verizon) to 4.3.2. Before doing so, I ran tinyumbrella to save SHSH, and while it successfully saved the blob for 4.3.1, it gave me an error for 4.3.2: you are just too late.
How is this possible? Isn't 4.3.2 the current build? I successfully upgraded to 4.3.2, which means Apple must still be signing it. I ran tinyumbrella again post-upgrade; same error.
Am I doing something wrong?
Today, I updated my iPad 2 (Verizon) to 4.3.2. Before doing so, I ran tinyumbrella to save SHSH, and while it successfully saved the blob for 4.3.1, it gave me an error for 4.3.2: you are just too late.
How is this possible? Isn't 4.3.2 the current build? I successfully upgraded to 4.3.2, which means Apple must still be signing it. I ran tinyumbrella again post-upgrade; same error.
Am I doing something wrong?
FaasNat
Oct 6, 02:04 PM
Here's hoping Safari implements some sort of cookie manager and popup window blocker perferences similar to how Firefox's are.
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Funkatronic
Dec 14, 06:38 PM
i like it, what did you change? what icons etc.?
Menubar icons v2 Leopard, SL by ~iAndrew: Link (http://iandrew.deviantart.com/art/Menubar-icons-v2-Leopard-SL-120653580)
Zukunft - bowtie theme by ~janik: Link (http://janik.deviantart.com/art/Zukunft-bowtie-theme-109443279)
Token Icons by ~brsev: Link (http://brsev.deviantart.com/art/Token-128429570) (Used Candybar and Mirage2)
Wallpaper | At the light by Jorge Quinteros: Link (http://www.flickr.com/photos/jorgeq82/3351960835/in/photostream/)
Menubar icons v2 Leopard, SL by ~iAndrew: Link (http://iandrew.deviantart.com/art/Menubar-icons-v2-Leopard-SL-120653580)
Zukunft - bowtie theme by ~janik: Link (http://janik.deviantart.com/art/Zukunft-bowtie-theme-109443279)
Token Icons by ~brsev: Link (http://brsev.deviantart.com/art/Token-128429570) (Used Candybar and Mirage2)
Wallpaper | At the light by Jorge Quinteros: Link (http://www.flickr.com/photos/jorgeq82/3351960835/in/photostream/)
CaoCao
Mar 24, 09:49 AM
The logic remains problematic. It's like arguing that someone who was just in a car accident increased their chance of getting hurt by driving on the road in the first place. You are indeed blaming the victim.
No, the logic is more like blaming someone who didn't put a seatbelt on and died by flying through a windshield
You do realize that all social interactions are not business transactions right? :rolleyes:
Not all social interactions need to be a chance for women to seduce men. When people constantly appeal to men's baser instincts why are they surprised when more men act on baser instincts?
The Burqua is worn to protect a woman's modesty and so they don't dress provocatively according to the standards of the country where the Burqua is worn.
Your views of what constitutes provocative dress is clearly less extreme than that but your opinion appears to be remarkably similar: "Women shouldn't dress provocatively."
It is wrong to make judgement of anyone based on how they are dressed: A woman (or man) may dress provocatively for a night out because they want to find a partner for the night or into the future. That doesn't mean they are an open door to any scumbag who thinks that they can violate them
The Burqa is as much about ownership as modesty, possibly more. Using a society where men buy their wives isn't a good comparison.
So the person is dressing slutty to get sex? Congratulations on confirming what I believe. The more you appeal to baser instincts the more people will act on said instincts...
No, the logic is more like blaming someone who didn't put a seatbelt on and died by flying through a windshield
You do realize that all social interactions are not business transactions right? :rolleyes:
Not all social interactions need to be a chance for women to seduce men. When people constantly appeal to men's baser instincts why are they surprised when more men act on baser instincts?
The Burqua is worn to protect a woman's modesty and so they don't dress provocatively according to the standards of the country where the Burqua is worn.
Your views of what constitutes provocative dress is clearly less extreme than that but your opinion appears to be remarkably similar: "Women shouldn't dress provocatively."
It is wrong to make judgement of anyone based on how they are dressed: A woman (or man) may dress provocatively for a night out because they want to find a partner for the night or into the future. That doesn't mean they are an open door to any scumbag who thinks that they can violate them
The Burqa is as much about ownership as modesty, possibly more. Using a society where men buy their wives isn't a good comparison.
So the person is dressing slutty to get sex? Congratulations on confirming what I believe. The more you appeal to baser instincts the more people will act on said instincts...
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Mr.Noisy
Feb 6, 10:58 AM
Time to Change :)
Original Image (http://www.zastavki.com/pictures/1920x1200/2009/Nature_Forest_Bamboo_Forest_018925_.jpg) before Photoshop & Silver Pro Nik Filter added.
Original Image (http://www.zastavki.com/pictures/1920x1200/2009/Nature_Forest_Bamboo_Forest_018925_.jpg) before Photoshop & Silver Pro Nik Filter added.
smolenski001
Apr 16, 11:15 PM
Okay so I know what a daisy chain is. My question is if anyone knows how that name got started. I feel like something as cool as linking hard drives together should have a better name than "daisy chaining."
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fdot
Jul 10, 05:28 PM
I am Going to wait at the staten meathead store.. anyone else
jmcrutch
Apr 6, 03:54 PM
Google has become aware of the interest in the word "petabyte." Made me think that Google truly has its finger on the pulse of the world because what is the first thing people do when they hear about something and want more information? They Google it. Seems like, in the way meteorologist predict the weather, based largely on past experiences from which they derive predictions, that Google will soon be able to predict what you are going to enter as your query and instead will simply offer you the answer when you load the Google page instead. And, I'm not even kidding when I think about this to myself.
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cecildk9999
Jan 12, 08:46 AM
I always enjoy watching the keynotes; Steve is an engaging speaker, and did a great demo for the new iPhone. I was waffling between the 'good' and 'missing something' choice on the poll, since I really wanted to find out more about stuff I could actually buy (Airport Express, iWork, etc.), but they Keynote was good for what it concentrated on. Ultimately, it just needs to be an exercise in patience, as I have good feelings about what 2007 will ultimately bring. And since I'm locked in to another year of T-Mobile, I won't even start to consider an iPhone until 08 (although that won't stop me from going in to play with one sometime this summer! :D ).
iBuferd
Jul 10, 01:26 AM
I talked to my AT&T rep today and he said that he is going to be in the west store over by Taylor's Crossing launch day Friday. I will be at that store instead. ;)
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ulbador
Apr 21, 02:00 PM
No... that would kind of defeat the purpose of the installer being signed...
techlover828
Jan 14, 12:55 PM
posted lots of times before
Reach9
Apr 13, 01:32 PM
Hmm.. I think Apple is keeping a tight lip on the iPhone 5. It's probably the most top secret objective atm, due to last year's iPhone 4 leak.
If anything Apple could have released the iPad 2 in September, because they're still on top of the tablet market, but smartphone wise they're lacking big time. Apple instead needs to step up their A game in the smartphone market and not releasing an iPhone 5 this year will be plain stupidity.
I'm not believing any of this until WWDC, i remember seeing enough articles saying that the iPad 2 will be released in Fall as well.
Btw guys, even if they are pushing the release date back to Fall, i highly doubt it's because of the Verizon iPhone, i think Apple knows how few people bought those. I'm sure Apple is more concerned with AT&T, and the whole world, instead of the small iPhone population in Verizon.
If anything Apple could have released the iPad 2 in September, because they're still on top of the tablet market, but smartphone wise they're lacking big time. Apple instead needs to step up their A game in the smartphone market and not releasing an iPhone 5 this year will be plain stupidity.
I'm not believing any of this until WWDC, i remember seeing enough articles saying that the iPad 2 will be released in Fall as well.
Btw guys, even if they are pushing the release date back to Fall, i highly doubt it's because of the Verizon iPhone, i think Apple knows how few people bought those. I'm sure Apple is more concerned with AT&T, and the whole world, instead of the small iPhone population in Verizon.
wordoflife
Apr 2, 07:40 PM
That is awesome.
iJon
Feb 23, 07:46 PM
thats a pretty cool contest. i may just have to ponder on that for a while.
iJon
iJon
Vegasman
Apr 4, 01:10 PM
I don't want THEM having the information. If I sever my relationship with a business (for example, by canceling a subscription) I don't WANT them to pester me to re-sign. I don't want phone calls, mailings, and email. If their computer burps and decides I haven't paid them properly, I don't WANT them pestering me or having debt collectors pester me.
That would be you. I for example, did not mind when XM radio offered me a 50% off deal for "coming back".
Just let FT know you don't want to be bothered and let the rest of us get the 50% off deals.
That would be you. I for example, did not mind when XM radio offered me a 50% off deal for "coming back".
Just let FT know you don't want to be bothered and let the rest of us get the 50% off deals.
munkle
Nov 14, 09:51 PM
Some more cool free apps that haven't been mentioned:
Mail.appetizer (http://www.bronsonbeta.com/mailappetizer/beta/): a nice and simple new e-mail notifier screen.
Graffiti (http://www.ianhenderson.org/software/graffiti): lets you flip over any window in a Cocoa application and write on the back!
Mail.appetizer (http://www.bronsonbeta.com/mailappetizer/beta/): a nice and simple new e-mail notifier screen.
Graffiti (http://www.ianhenderson.org/software/graffiti): lets you flip over any window in a Cocoa application and write on the back!
PCClone
May 1, 10:05 AM
Kinda funny they should pick Castle for a code name LOL
www.castleintheclouds.org
Maybe they have a hidden data center there...
www.castleintheclouds.org
Maybe they have a hidden data center there...
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